10+1 izizathu zokuthi kungani kukuhle ukungashadi

Ngokungangabazeki, kunezinzuzo eziningi ezinhle ebudlelwaneni. Ungafunda ezingaba ngu-12 kuzo . Yebo, kuhle ukuba sebudlelwaneni obunempilo futhi ube nethuba lokuzanelisa ebudlelwaneni nomuntu othandana naye, kodwa ngaphambi kwalokho, sivame ukuhlangana nobudlelwano obungenampilo, ubudlelwano obuhlulekile kanye… isizungu esibi.

Ngokujwayelekile, isikhathi sokungashadi sithathwa njengesiphambano - isijeziso esikhulu kunazo zonke obekumele sisihlawulele. Bese sibheka umuntu esingasondela kuye, i.e. sidlidliza ezingeni lokuphelelwa ithemba. Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, sidlikiza ngale ndlela, kusho ukuthi asikwazi ukuheha ubudlelwano obuhle, obunempilo, nobanelisayo.

Kuphela ngokwamukela nokwamukela isigaba somzwangedwa singalungiselela ubuhlobo obuhle. Uthanda kanjani ukuba nesizungu? Ungayeka kanjani ukudlidliza kusuka ezingeni lokushoda futhi uqale ukudlidliza kusuka ekuchichimeni ebuhlotsheni phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane? Awu, ngokwanele ukwazi indawo kanye nezinzuzo zayo ezingenakuphikwa. Enye:

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1. Ungahamba

Ngaphandle kwanoma yikuphi ukuvinjelwa, ngaphandle kohlelo olukhulu, ngaphandle kokuhlela nokubheka ikhalenda nozakwethu. Uyafuna ukuzidela? Uthathe ubhaka wakho uhambe. Awenzi izinhlelo zakho zihambisane nomndeni wakho noma umlingani wakho. Abangashadile bangahamba ngokungenamkhawulo.

 2. ungahlangana nabantu

Futhi ungakwenza ezingeni lezothando, uthole ulwazi futhi uvumelane nawe mayelana nokuthi yini ongavumelana nayo esikhathini esizayo, ubudlelwano obungaba khona, nokuthi yini engekho. Ukudlala ngothando kuthuthukisa imizwa, kwenza impilo ibe mnandi. Phatha ukuhlangana nabanye abantu njengesipiliyoni futhi njengesigaba somphakathi esijulile sempilo yakho.

3. Unamathuba okuzithuthukisa

Ngokubambisana, kunjalo, futhi, kodwa hhayi ngezinga esibhekana nalo lapho sisodwa. Unesikhathi nesikhala sokukhula njengomuntu, usebenze ngomzimba wakho nomphefumulo wakho, futhi uzindle. Ungasesha imisebenzi ongase uyijabulele, uyihlole, futhi ubone ukuthi ungena kanjani kuyo. Sebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukuze uvule amaphiko akho.

4. Unesikhathi sokuzithuthukisa

Uma uphila impilo eyodwa, uba nesikhathi sokwenza lokho OFUNA ukukwenza. Awazi ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukulondoloza ubudlelwano obusha kodwa obufudumele. Izindaba eziqhubekayo, imihlangano, izingcingo futhi kungazelelwe kuvela ukuthi kunesikhathi esincane kakhulu esisele kuwe. Yisebenzise!

5. Ungalala ngokuthula nangokuthula

Yiqiniso, kumnandi ukulala ezingalweni zomuntu, kodwa, uyabona, unombhede wonke! Ungangena endaweni oyifunayo, uzimboze ngezandlalelo eziningi ozidingayo, futhi usebenzise yonke imicamelo onayo ekhaya. Kuyafaneleka ukujabulela ukungaphazanyiswa, ukulala isikhathi eside ngaphandle kokuqala kwengubo.

6. Ufunda ukuzimela.

Ngemva kokuhlukana nokuqala kokuphila okukodwa, ungase wesabe ukuzimela. Ngokuphazima kweso, yonke imithwalo yemfanelo ehlukaniswe phakathi isele ekhanda lakho. Lokhu kuyamangalisa! Thatha lokhu njengenselele futhi uqale ukufunda ukuzethemba futhi uzenzele owakho ukuzimela. Lokhu kuzofika kuwusizo ebudlelwaneni bakho obulandelayo, ngoba ozakwethu abazimele bakhanga kakhulu kunalabo abathembele futhi badinga ukutakulwa njalo.

7. Ubuyekeza abangani bakho

Futhi uqinisa izibopho hhayi kuphela nabangane, kodwa futhi nomndeni. Phela, unesikhathi esiningi sazo. Ngeshwa, uma siqala ukudala umndeni nomunye umuntu, othintana nabo oxhumana nabo ngokuzenzakalelayo baba buthaka ngenxa yenani elilinganiselwe lesikhathi samahhala noma ukukhathala okuvamile. Manje njengoba usunesikhathi nendawo, qiniseka ukuthi uxhumana nabangane bakho njalo.

8. Uyazi ukuthi ufuna ukumvumela bani empilweni yakho.

Ngokuvamile, ubudlelwano obungagculisi buyaqhubeka ngenxa yezibopho ezihlanganyelwe, izinqubo, kanye nemikhuba. Abalingani abahlali ndawonye, ​​kodwa ngokuhlanganyela. Uyazi ukuthi ukuphila endaweni enjalo kuyisiqalekiso? Uma ungashadile, uzofunda ngokushesha ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwabantu ofuna ukubavumela empilweni yakho nalabo abazoba yisinqumo esihle kuwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Jabulela leli lungelo!

9. Ungazinakekela wena nakho konke okukhathalelayo.

Ubudlelwano budinga ukusebenza nhlangothi zombili, ukunakekelwa, ukunakekelwa kanye nokuyekethisa. Manje njengoba ungadingi ukubhekana nakho, usungakwazi ukuqondisa wonke amandla akho ngendlela oyifunayo. Ngiyakuqinisekisa ukuthi uma umuntu ofuna ukuphila naye efika empilweni yakho, uzofaka wonke amandla akho kuyo. Uzinakekele!

10. Uzothola ukuthi ungubani ngempela.

Yiqiniso, ebudlelwaneni, nawe ngeke uphunyuke inqubo yokuzitholela ngokwakho. Umuntu wesibili, ngokungafani nabanye, ukhomba ukushiyeka kwethu futhi usibonisa konke esibukweni esikhulisa. Kodwa ukuzitholela wena ngezikhathi zesizungu kuyinto eyigugu kangangokuthi kungaba ihlazo ukuvele uphuthelwe futhi ulahlekelwe ithuba lokuzitholela wena. Isizungu siyinkululeko ephelele, ukushintsha indawo yokuhlala nomsebenzi ngaphandle kwezibopho, ukufuna indlela yomuntu siqu nendawo emhlabeni. Ngeke uphinde ube nalelo zinga lenkululeko kanye nalolo hlobo lwenkululeko futhi.

11. Isondlo esishibhile kanye nokuzimela okwengeziwe

Uwedwa, kulula kuwe ukuthi usebenze emhlabeni wezezimali nokonga. Ungenza noma yini oyifunayo ngemali yakho ngaphandle kokubheka emuva kunoma ubani. Njengomuntu ongashadile, futhi unokulawula okwengeziwe phezu kwabo. Kodwa-ke, ngenxa yalokho, udinga ukunaka kolunye uhlangothi futhi ubonisane nabo ngezindaba zezimali, ikakhulukazi lapho usuphokophele ekuqaliseni umndeni.

Uma ushintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngesimo sakho - futhi okwesikhashana, uma kungekona ukukhetha kwakho - ukudlidliza kwakho kuzoshintsha. Ngokushintsha ukudlidliza, unethuba lokuhlangana nomuntu osezingeni elifanayo. Cabanga ukuthi esimweni sokuncishwa kanye nesifiso sobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, uhlangana nomuntu ngezikhathi ezifanayo. Ingabe ubudlelwano obunjalo bunelungelo lokuba khona? Ingabe babejabule, benelisekile futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, benempilo?

Khumbula ukuthi yonke into edlidlizayo ngemvamisa efana neyakho izonamathela kuwe maduze noma kamuva, ngakho-ke nakekela ukudlidliza kwakho futhi ukhiphe umuzwa wokoma, ngoba ukhiqizwa ukuntula. Zitholele izinzuzo zokuba wedwa bese ucindezela lesi sigaba sempilo njengolamula.

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