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Ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-45, eHawaii. U-Liko wayeneminyaka eyi-XNUMX lapho i-kahuna imxosha edolobhaneni. Wathi: “Imimoya ithatha i-mana yakho (amandla okuphila) njengesijeziso, ezinsukwini ezintathu uzofa. ULikho wethuka. Yiqiniso, wenza ideveli, wayelindele ukujeziswa, kodwa wayengafuni ukufa. Ngaphandle kokuthi i-kahuna kwakungu-Ananana futhi wayekwazi ukuthandaza kunkulunkulu ukuze kufe umuntu. Ngakho uma ethi uLiko uzofa ezinsukwini ezintathu, ukufa kwakuyofika. ULikho wathatha yonke imali yakhe, waya emzini womlungu ongudokotela, wathi ukhokha izikweletu zakhe, ngoba ezinsukwini ezintathu uzoshona. Wamangala udokotela. Wathi: “Ngeke nife. - Awekho amandla anjalo. Kodwa nakuba uLiko, ngokusho kukadokotela omhlophe, wayenempilo enhle njengenhlanzi, wayeba buthakathaka njalo ngehora. Udokotela wayisa lo wesilisa waseHawaii esibhedlela, lapho odokotela bezama khona ukumisa ukuvalwa kancane kancane kwezitho zale ndoda. Yehlulekile. Ngemva kwezinsuku ezintathu isiqalekiso, uLiko wafa.

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Ekuqaleni kwekhulu lesi-XNUMX, iGreat Britain. Ngokombiko wenhlangano elwa nobudlova bentsha, iBeatBullying, ingxenye yesithathu yabasha iyizisulu zokuhlukunyezwa nokuhlukunyezwa ontanga. Amaphesenti amahlanu awo aqala ukuzilimaza, amaphesenti amathathu azama ukuzibulala. Abezindaba bakhuluma kuphela ngezinye zezingane ezikwenzile.

UHannah Smith (14), Ciara Pugsley (15), Erin Gallagher (13), Josh Unsworth (15) bazibulala ngoba ontanga yabo babatshela ku-sk.fm izinyanga ukuthi babi, bayiziphukuphuku, bengenathemba kangangokuthi abanalo ilungelo. ukuphila. Muva nje, uDominik Szymanski oneminyaka engu-14 ubudala waseBezhun uzilengise ePoland ngemuva kokuzingelwa abangani bakhe ngoba ubephupha ekhubazekile kancane - udebe oluphukile. Watshelwa ukuthi uyisiwula (kwengeza uthisha we-chemistry), ukuthi uyi-homo (ngoba wayemnene futhi engafungi), ukuthi kufanele afe. Akakwazanga, ikakhulukazi njengoba othisha bebheke eceleni, ngabe wonke lamacala ahlangene ngani? Bafakazela ukuthi ukwazi komuntu akukwazi nje ukuziphilisa, kodwa futhi ukucisha umzimba ngokwawo. Ngakho umcabango wethu ungasibulala, singakwenza kanjani? Shintsha futhi ushintshe lapha UKHOLO. Uma nje sithukuthelele izilima, inqobo nje uma sithukuthele futhi sithukuthele, inqobo nje uma sizonda, sizophila. Okungcono kakhulu esingakuthola isilonda esiswini noma i-neurosis. Nokho, lapho sikholelwa ukuthi abazonda yonke imivimbo - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi basekhaya, esikoleni noma kuyi-Internet - baqinisile uma bethi asinathemba, siyenyanyeka futhi asinalo ilungelo lokuphila, khona-ke indlela yokuzibhubhisa iyakhahlela. Lona owabulala uLiko nakuba wayephila kahle.

Yile nqubo eyenza isebenze futhi ivale ukulungela komuntu ukuphila ezimeni ezihlukahlukene. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho indoda ingasafuni ukuphila ngaphandle komkayo, owashona ngemva kweminyaka engu-50 beshadile. Kungazelelwe, umuntu osaphile kahle, ngemva kwenyanga noma ezimbili ngemva komngcwabo, naye uyahamba, ngokuvamile elele.Umthetho womlingo awunakuguqulwa: wonke umuntu uthola lokho akunikezileVele, kunomehluko phakathi kukaLiko waseHawaii nokuzibulala kwanamuhla: wayekholelwa ngokujulile ekufeni kwakhe okwakuseduze kangangokuthi ingqondo yakhe yazibulala. Izisulu zabazondayo zinomuzwa wokuthi kuwumsebenzi wazo ukuzibulala. Futhi benza. Kodwa umshini uyafana: ingabe labo abafaka abantu kwalasha wokuphelelwa ithemba, okuwukuphela kwendlela yokuphuma kuyintambo noma insingo, bayazi ukuthi badlala ngezimpilo zabanye abantu? Ngezinye izikhathi yebo, kodwa kaningi cha - izwe lisendle kangangokuthi entsheni eningi inzondo ibonakala iwukuzijabulisa okukhulu. Othile ujikijela amatshe ebhulohweni ezimotweni, ebala izingoma ezishaywe, othile ukhipha isithukuthezi sakhe empilweni nokudumala kokuthunyelwe kunethiwekhi. Kodwa abasoli ukuthi la mandla ekugcineni azobuyela kubo - ngandlela thile - futhi ashaye impindiselo ngoMthetho Womlingo wokuqala: njengokuheha njengokufana.

Abanye bathi izisulu zenzondo ye-inthanethi (inzondo, ukuphawula okuyichilo) yibona abanecala - ngoba bangazikhipha ohlwini lwe-Facebook, izingxoxo nezinkundla, bacime ikhompuyutha futhi bacasule iziwula. Akekho obaphoqayo ukuthi bafunde ukuphawula kwabantu abangagculisekile. Kubonakala kuyiqiniso, kodwa engxenyeni ebalulekile yabantu i-inthanethi iwumhlaba wangempela kunendlu nedolobha elingaphandle kwefasitela. Izikhathi ezinjalo. Berenice Sizobhala maduze mayelana nendlela yokuzivikela emandleni enzondo.Isivikelo samandla ngokumelene nabazondayo

• Dweba indilinga phansi ngoshoki omhlophe. Zenze ukhululeke ngaphakathi, mhlawumbe esihlalweni, bese uvala amehlo akho. Thatha umoya omncane, usule imicabango yakho. Manje zibone uphakathi kwabo bonke abangane abakuthandayo, abakwazisayo, abakuthandayo. Zizwele. Zikhipha amandla amhlophe akuzungezile ku-cocoon ongangeneki.
• Manje cabanga ngabazondayo, imicibisholo yabo emnyama yenzondo igxumagxuma emfeceni oyisiliva. Uphephile. Zizwele. Akekho ongakuvimbela ukuthi uzithande futhi uzazise. Ufanelwe uthando - kholelwa kukho. Akekho onelungelo lokusho okuhlukile - ngikholwe.
• Phinda umkhuba ngisho izikhathi eziningana ngosuku. Futhi khumbula: amandla amabi, amazwi anenzondo, umlingo omnyama ngeke kukuthinte uma ukholelwa ngempela ukuthi asebenza kuphela ngoba uwavumela. Ukukholwa kwakho kubanika amandla.

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