I-Demisexuality - iyini futhi ihluke kanjani ku-asexuality

I-Demisexuality umuzwa wokukhangwa ngokocansi inqobo nje uma wenza ukuxhumana okuqinile ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi i-demisexual idinga isikhathi nokwakha umuzwa wokusondelana ukuze izwe isifiso sokusondelana ngokomzimba. Yini okufanele ukwazi ngayo?

1. Kusho ukuthini ukuhlukana nobulili?

Ubungqingili yitemu lohlobo lokuthambekela kwezocansi oluwela esigabeni somqondo esifanayo njengobungqingili, ubungqingili, kanye nobungqingili. Lo muzwa wokukhangwa ngokobulili kuphela kubantu abanobudlelwane obuqinile nabo ngokomzwelo. Ngakho-ke kusho ukungabi namuzwa ukuqeqeshwa ngokomzimba ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Izingxabano zocansi zenzeka kuphela lapho ubudlelwano buba nemizwelo kakhulu.

Ukuthandeka ngokocansi akusona isisekelo sokuqala ubudlelwano nomuntu ongasekho. Okubaluleke kakhulu kuye kunokuheha ngokomzimba okuqukethwe kwangaphakathi: uhlamvu nobuntu. Kuhle ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuhlukana kwabantu ngokobulili akukona ukuchezuka kokujwayelekile, futhi cishe iphesenti elincane labantu lihlushwa yilesi simo.

Umqondo ukucwasa ngokobulili ivele muva nje. Yaqala ukusetshenziswa ngo-2006. Leli gama laqanjwa i-Asexual Visibility and Education Network, Aveni) futhi yaduma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.

Lo mqondo usabangela imizwa eminingi nezingxabano. Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi kusha ubuliliowavala igebe phakathi kobulili kanye nokulala. Ibukelwa phansi noma iphikwe ngabanye. Leli qembu labantu likholelwa ukuthi ukuhlukana ngokobulili yigama elingadingekile lesimo sengqondo esijwayelekile mayelana nobudlelwane obuseduze. Phela, abantu abaningi, abangena ebuhlotsheni obusha, kuqala bafuna ukwazi umlingani, bese uqala i-adventure evusa inkanuko naye.

Igama elithi demisexuality livela egameni demi, okungukuthi, uhhafu. Kumuntu othanda ubulili obufanayo uyingxenye yocansi, isigamu se-asexual. Ngokuthakazelisayo, akanandaba ukuthi lowo muntu akha ubuhlobo naye ngokomzwelo ungowobulili obufanayo noma obuhlukile.

Ukuzizwa kuyisihluthulelo ukukhangwa ngokomzwelo komunye umuntu. Abantu bobulili obuhlukile banesithakazelo kumuntu wonke. Kungakho umuntu ohlukana naye engakwazi ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano obuphumelelayo nabo bobabili abantu bobulili obufanayo kanye nomuntu wobulili obuhlukile, nomuntu onobulili obubili noma oshintshe ubulili.

2. Ukuhlukana ngobulili kuzibonakalisa kanjani?

Ama-Demisexuals yilabo ababeka phambili ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo kunokukhangwa ngokomzimba ukuze bazizwe ukukhangwa ngokocansikumele kuqala bakhe ubudlelwano obujulile. Ihluke ngempela kokujwayelekile. Ngokuvamile ukuqala kobudlelwane kuwukukhangwa ngokocansi, ngesisekelo lapho umuzwa ukhula. Ukwazi umuntu umuntu ongeyena owobulili angazizwa ekhangwa ucansi ngemizuzwana.

Ukungahloniphi ngokobulili kubonakala ngokuntuleka kwesifiso sobulili ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Isidingo sokuxhumana ngokomzimba singase singaveli kuze kube yilapho ubuhlobo bomzwelo bugculisa. Ukungathandi ukuya ocansini kungabangelwa ukuzithanda noma ukuxhumana okukha phezulu kakhulu ngokomzwelo.

Abantu bobulili obuhlukile abathandani ekuqaleni. Badinga isikhathi ukuze bazizwe bexhumene nothile futhi bamazi ngaphakathi. Kubo, futhi ayithandeki. ucansi olukhululekile (okuhambisana nemizwa esindayo kubo). Abayazi futhi nomqondo wokukhangwa abantu ongabazi noma abantu abasanda kuhlangana nabo.

3. I-Demisexualism asexualism

Abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo bavame ukubonwa njengababandayo futhi abanqeni ukungena ebudlelwaneni bothando obuseduze. Kodwa-ke, kufanele kugcizelelwe ukuthi ukuhlukana kwabantu ngokobulili akufani ucansiokusho ukubanda ngokocansi kanye nokungabi nesifiso socansi.

abantu ucansi zihlobene nozakwethu, ukwakha ubudlelwano futhi zibakhawulele ohlelweni olusezingeni lobuhlakani noma lomzwelo. Nakanjani aziyifaki inkanuko.

Abantu bobulili obuhlukile abanazo iziyaluyalu libido. Izinketho zabo zimane zihlobene nezici zemizwa. Abantu abathandana nobulili obuhlukile, ngaphansi kwezimo ezifanele kanye nemizwa enamandla, bangaguqula ukubanda kwabo okuyisisekelo kube isidingo sokuxhumana ngokomzimba (ucansi lwesibili). Lokhu kusho ukuthi abathandani nobulili ngokwengxenye - kuze kube yilapho kuvela ukukhangwa ngokocansi futhi baba abantu bocansi.

Bayakwazi ukuzwa ubumnandi bocansi. Badinga nje isikhathi esiningi sokukwenza kunabanye. Yingakho kuthiwa ukuhlukana kwabantu ngokobulili kuphakathi kobulili kanye nobulili obufanayo.

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