ubungqingili - buyini futhi yiziphi izinganekwane ezizungezile

Ukuthambekela kobungqingili akusho nje ukukhangwa ubulili kuphela, kodwa futhi nokunamathela ngokomzwelo kubulili bomuntu. I-Psychology kanye nemithi kudala behlukanisa ubungqingili njengesifo. Kuphela ngo-1990, i-World Health Organization yasusa ubungqingili ohlwini lwezifo nezinkinga zempilo. Njengamanje, ukuthambekela kocansi ngakunye kuyalingana, futhi angeke kube khona umbuzo wokuhlukaniswa kokuhle nokubi kakhulu. Okungenani akufanele.

1. Buyini ubutabane

Sizalwa sinokuthambekela okuthile, okuhlanganisa ngokuya ngokuthambekela kwethu ngokobulili. Kunezinqumo ezintathu zocansi:

• ubulili obubili,
• abantu bobulili obuhlukile,
• ubungqingili.

Kuze kube manje, bebebhekwa njengabahlukaniseke ngokuphelele. Njengamanje, ezinye izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ziyakukholelwa lokho psychosexual orientation kuwukuqhubeka okusukela kobulili obuhlukile kuye kobungqingili kuye kobungqingili. Lawa amanani adlulele, futhi phakathi kwawo kukhona amanani aphakathi.

Noma yikuphi ukuthambekela kobulili bobulili kuhlanganisa:

• ukuthanda ucansi,
• ukuziphatha nezidingo zocansi,
• imicabango yocansi,
• imizwa,
• ukuzenza.

Ngakho-ke ubungqingili akuyena umuntu okhethe ukuya ocansini nomuntu wobulili obufanayo okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe. Ukuthambekela ngokobulili kungaphezu kocansi, kuphinde kube yimizwa kanye nokuzazisa. Ubungqingili busho ukuthi umuntu ukhangwa ngokocansi futhi athandeke ngokocansi kubantu bobulili obufanayo. Akusona isifo. Awukwazi "ukuthola" ubungqingili. Ngakho-ke, ongqingili akufanele baphathwe njengesifo sofuba noma abanochoko.

Sizalwa sinezimo ezithize ezibuye zilawule ubulili bethu futhi ngeke sikwazi ukukushintsha - lezi yizimbangela zobungqingili.

Ngenxa yokwanda kokuqwashisa nokubekezelelwa kwezitabane, seziyaziwa kwamanye amazwe. umshado wezitabane noma ubudlelwano bobulili obufanayo. Ubudlelwano obunjalo bungabandakanya ngokusemthethweni:

• I-Denmark (ubambiswano lomphakathi),
• I-Norway (ubambiswano lomphakathi),
• I-Sweden (ubudlelwane bomphakathi),
• I-Iceland (ubambiswano lomphakathi),
• I-Netherlands (imibhangqwana eshadile),
• IBelgium (imibhangqwana eshadile),
• Spain (imibhangqwana eshadile),
• ECanada (imibhangqwana eshadile)
• INingizimu Afrika (abashadile),
• ezinye US uthi: Massachusetts, Connecticut (imibhangqwana eshadile).

2. Izinganekwane ngobutabane

Ezinye izinkolelo-mbono okuthi, naphezu kokubekezelelana okwandayo, zisaqhubeka kwezinye izindawo azilona iqiniso: ubungqingili akusona isimo se-pathological esingalapheka. Kodwa-ke, "ukwelashwa" kobungqingili akuzange kwenziwe kuphela, kodwa kusaqhutshwa ePoland.

Futhi lokhu kwenzeka naphezu kokugxekwa ochwepheshe bezengqondo, izazi zezocansi kanye nodokotela bengqondo abangaqapheli noma yikuphi ukuthambekela kokuthintana nobulili njengesifo noma ukuphazamiseka. Umzamo wokushintsha lesi siqondiso uwukugxambukela kobuntu nobuqotho bomqondo bomuntu.

Izinganekwane ezivame kakhulu ngobungqingili: »

ongqingili bacabanga ngocansi kuphela Ubutabane akukona ukuchezuka. ongqingili bacabanga ngocansi njengoba nje abathandana nabobulili obuhlukile. Kuyingozi kubo ukubabona kuphela nge-prism yobulili babo.

izitabane - i-pedophilia - ukuphambuka, okubandakanya ukulimaza izingane ngokokuziphatha nangokomzimba egameni lokuzithokozisa kwazo. ubungqingili abuhlangene ne-pedophilia. Ingxenye yamadoda adlwengula izingane ingabantu abathanda ubulili obuhlukile, kanti abanye abakhangwa abantu abadala.

kusukela ku-gay kuya ku-transvestite - lokhu akulona iqiniso, ukuthambekela kobungqingili akwephuli umqondo wobunikazi bobulili. I-transvestite ngumuntu ozihlanganisa nobulili obuhlukile. Bavame ukuhlinzwa ukuhlinzwa kabusha kocansi. Ongqingili abanazo izidingo ezinjalo.

Ingane ekhuliswe abantu bobulili obufanayo izoba yisitabane - njengoba sekushiwo kakade, sizalwa sinezimo ezithile, kuhlanganise maqondana nokuma kwethu. Alukho ucwaningo oluqinisekisa ukuthi ukukhuliswa emndenini wabesilisa bonke kubangela ukuthi izigceme zibe yizitabane.

Ukwelashwa kobungqingilifuthi ubulili obubili buyabhekwa ekwelashweni kokuguqula (noma ukwelapha ngokulungisa). Isebenzisa:

• izici zokwelashwa kokuziphatha,
• izici ze-psychodynamic therapy,
• izici ze-psychoanalysis.

3. ubungqingili kanye nokunemba

Manje sekukholakala ukuthi igama "elilungile ngokwepolitiki" lithi "ubungqingili" noma "ubungqingili". isitabane yigama elibi. Uma sikhuluma ngowesifazane, ungasebenzisa igama elithi "lesbian", uma sikhuluma ngowesilisa - "gay".

Futhi, konke kuncike ekutheni yini ekhathaza umuntu nokuthi yini engamkhathazi. Kwenzeka ukuthi ongqingili uzozibiza ngokuthi "i-fag" ngokuhlambalaza, kodwa ngokuvamile lokhu kuwukuzihleka usulu, futhi thina ngokwethu akufanele sisebenzise amagama anjalo maqondana naye (ngaphandle uma kumkhathaza nakancane futhi angakwazi ukuhleka iziqubulo ezinjalo. ).

ukuthambekela kobungqingili kuvame ukuhlangana nokungabekezelelani kwabantu abanemibono yokucwasa ongqingili, kanye nemibuthano ethile yezombangazwe neyezenkolo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunethiyori eyinqaba ebheka lolu daba ngokombono wezitabane kanye nezitabane ngokwazo.

Ingabe udinga ukubonisana nodokotela, i-e-issuance noma i-e-prescription? Iya kuwebhusayithi ethi abcZdrowie Thola udokotela futhi ngokushesha uhlele isikhathi sokulala esibhedlela nochwepheshe abavela kulo lonke elasePoland noma nge-teleportation.

I-athikili ibuyekezwe uchwepheshe:

Magdalena Bonyuk, Massachusetts

Sexologist, psychologist, osemusha, omdala kanye nomndeni Therapist.