Ubulili bengqondo - kuyini, ukwakheka kobulili

Kungase kubonakale sengathi sinobulili obubodwa - owesifazane, owesilisa. Lokhu kwahlukana okulula akubonakali kangako uma ucabangela ukuthi abacwaningi bahlukanisa ubulili obuyishumi!

Ngamunye wethu unalo: ubulili be-chromosomal (i-genotypic), ubulili be-gonadal, ubulili be-intragenital, ubulili bangaphandle bangasese, i-phenotypic, i-hormonal, i-metabolic, i-social, ubuchopho nobulili obungokwengqondo.

1. Ubulili bengqondo - buyini?

Ubulili bengqondo, ubulili, bulolongwa umphakathi namasiko ubunikazi bobulili. NgokweNhlangano Yezempilo Yomhlaba, lezi izindima, ukuziphatha, izenzo kanye nezimfanelo ezidalwe umphakathi lo mphakathi ozibona zifanele amadoda nabesifazane. Ngokwe-colloquially, amagama athi "ubudoda" kanye "nobufazi" asetshenziselwa ukuchaza izici ezibonakalayo ezihlobene nobulili kanye nokuziphatha ngokuvumelana nezinkolelo-ze ezivamile. Wonke umuntu ebuntwaneni ufunda izincazelo zobufazi kanye nobudoda emphakathini onikeziwe - ukuthi owesifazane noma owesilisa kufanele abukeke kanjani, yimuphi umsebenzi ongawukhetha, njll. wena kanye nomhlaba.

2. Ubulili bengqondo - ukuthuthukiswa kobulili

Ukukhala "yintombazane" noma "ngumfana" ekuzalweni kwengane kungathathwa njengesiqalo somthelela wemvelo. Kusukela kulo mzuzu kuqhubeke, ingane ikhuliswa ngokuhambisana nezindinganiso zobudoda nezowesifazane ezamukelwa emvelweni. Amantombazane azobe egqoke pink, abafana blue. Kodwa-ke, usana olusanda kuzalwa alukhethi ngokobulili, amathonya emvelo aseduze akhomba usana njengomuntu wobulili obufanayo awanqumi. Imingcele yokuhlonza ibekwe ngokwemvelo.

Izifunda Zokuqwashisa Ngocansi ziqala ukwakheka ngokushesha ngemva kokuzalwa, ngokusekelwe, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ekuqapheliseni. Nakuba wonke umuntu enza imibono mayelana nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba yindoda noma owesifazane ukuze azisebenzisele yena, lezi zibonelo zithonywa kakhulu indawo yomphakathi. Ngisho nangemidlalo esiyinikeza izingane, sizifundisa izindima ezithile nobudlelwano. Ngokudlala ngonodoli ekhaya, amantombazane afunda ukuthi indima yawo iwukunakekela abanye kuqala. Kubafana, imidlalo ehlobene nokuhlola indawo noma ukuxazulula izinkinga (imidlalo yempi, ukuqaqa izinto ezincane noma izisetshenziswa) inikezwa. Kufanele babe cishe iminyaka emi-5. ukuhlonza ubulili empeleni inomumo. Uma ngaphambili, esiteji se-intrauterine, kwakukhona noma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka ohlelweni lokuhlukaniswa ngokocansi, khona-ke phakathi nalesi sikhathi esibucayi baqinisa noma banciphise. Eminyakeni engaba ngu-5, izingane zingena esiteji esibizwa ngokuthi "i-developmental sexism", ebonakala ngokudlala kuphela nezingane zobulili obufanayo, ukukhetha amathoyizi, imidlalo eyabelwe kulobu bulili. Ukwehlukaniswa kobunikazi bobulili besilisa nabesifazane, kanye nokwamukelwa kwezindima, ezithuthukayo ohlelweni lwemfundo, kufanele kujule kancane kancane ebusheni, kuze kufike eminyakeni yokuvuthwa. Ahlotshaniswa namaqembu ezimpawu kanye nemibhalo yokuziphatha okuthiwa eyamadoda noma abesifazane. Indoda yangempela kufanele izimele, ingabi nemizwelo kakhulu, iqine, iqine, ibe namandla. Izimpawu ezihambisana nobufazi esikweni lethu uthando, ukunakekela, ukulalela, ukuzidela, ukusiza, nokunakekela. Intombazane kulindeleke ukuthi ilandele lo modeli. Kunezici ezivame kakhulu kwabesilisa noma abesifazane, kodwa asikho isici esingokwengqondo esingabalulwa ngasocansini olulodwa kuphela.

Akwenzeki futhi ukucacisa ngokunemba kwesayensi ukuthi yini "imvamisa owesilisa" noma "imvamisa owesifazane". Mhlawumbe akufanele silinganisele ukuziveza kuphela “kowesilisa” noma “owesifazane”? I-stereotypes ihlale ilula, kufaka phakathi ubulili, ngezinye izikhathi ukulandela isifanekiso ngenkani kuletha ukuhlupheka okuningi. Abesifazane abalona iqembu elilinganayo, njengamadoda, ngamunye ungumuntu ngamunye futhi unelungelo lendlela yakhe. Abesifazane abaningi ngeke bavumelane nenkulumo ethi okuwukuphela kwenjongo yokuphila kwabo ukunakekela abanye. Abaziboni futhi bebuthaka, bengenzi lutho, noma belungile ukuba sesikhundleni sobuholi, bangene kwezombusazwe, noma bazinqumele izimpilo zabo.

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