Ukufuya - kuyini nokuthi ungayihlakulela kanjani?

Ukufuya kuwuhlobo lomsebenzi wocansi olukuvumela ukuthi uthole injabulo nokwaneliseka, okufana kakhulu nalokho esibhekana nakho ocansini lwakudala. Ukufuya kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi kunikeze injabulo nobabili futhi kube umdlalo wabo bobabili ozakwethu. Lokhu kuvame ukwandulela ukuya ocansini kwangempela.

1. Kuyini ukuphulula

Ukubhebhana kuwuhlobo lwesenzo socansi esihlanganisa ukuqabulana, ukuphululana nokuthintana izitho zangasese. Lokhu ukuziphatha okwenza ngokushesha ukukhululwa kwengcindezi yocansi.

Ukufuya akumele kuphele ngocansi, kuyajabulisa kubo bobabili abalingani, futhi kuyisiqinisekiso sokuqeda ukushuba kocansi. Ukufuya ukwazana ngomzimba womunye kanye nendlela uphathina asabela ngayo emizweni yocansi.

2. Ukufuya nokukhulelwa

Izazi zezocansi ziyavuma ukuthi futhi kuyindlela yokuziphatha ngokocansi lapho kungenakwenzeka ukukhulelwa. Kunjalo, inqobo nje uma ngesikhathi sokuphuma isidoda okungenzeka, isidoda singangeni esithweni sangasese sowesifazane futhi ukuphulula akugcini ngobuhlobo bobulili.

Intsha kufanele iqaphele ukuthi ukukhulelwa ngenxa yokufuya akwenzeki, kodwa namanje. Ngenxa yokuntuleka kwengozi yokukhulelwa, ukuphulula kuvame ukunikezwa ngesikhathi ukwelashwa nge-sexologist njengosizo ekuvukeleni ucansi kubantu abangakutholi ngokushesha - badinga isikhathi esengeziwe.

Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ukuphulula akupheli ngocansi, akudingi umthwalo wemfanelo kuphela, kodwa nokuqwashisa nokuvuthwa. Ukufuya futhi kuyindlela yokwazi umzimba wakho, ngoba ukuthinta kuyisici esibalulekile ekwakheni ubudlelwano phakathi kwabalingani. Ukufuya kunikeza ukuvuleka okulinganayo kwemizimba yomunye nomunye, ukunikezana injabulo, kanye ukwakha umuzwa wokulondeka. Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi lesi sixazululo asikona nje kuphela kubantu abanolwazi oluncane lwezocansi, kodwa futhi kubantu abanolwazi abafuna ukuhlukanisa ukuphila kwabo.

Ungamangazi ukuthi kuyini ukupetula noma ukuthi kwenziwa kanjani. Ekubambeni, kubalulekile ukukwazi ukuqeda konke ukuvinjelwa kanye nezinkimbinkimbi, abalingani bavuleleka komunye nomunye, okubuye kuvezwe ngokwaneliseka okuphelele ngobuhlobo. Ukufuya kumayelana nokwakha ubuhlobo obungokomzwelo, obuyigugu lapho umbhangqwana unquma ukuya ocansini.

3. Kwenziwa kanjani ukuphulula?

Intsha ivame ukuzibuza ukuthi kuyini ukufuya nokuthi kukhuliswa kanjani. Bayazibuza ukuthi kukhona yini ukuxhumana phakathi kokukhulelwa nokutotoswa. Kodwa-ke, izimpendulo zilula kakhulu futhi indlela yoku-ayina inembile kakhulu.

Ziningi ngempela izinhlobo zokuphulula ezingaletha umlingani wakho ku-orgasm. Ukufuya ukukhuthazwa okuvame ukwenziwa ngezandla, umlomo, nolimi. Nakuba eyodwa uhlobo lwe-weasel Akunzima, akulula ukuletha umlingani ku-orgasm egcwele ngenxa yokumbambatha, ngakho-ke zama izindlela ezahlukene zokumbambatha. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukwazi ukuthi yiziphi izindawo emzimbeni ezizonikeza ukwaneliseka ngesikhathi sokuphulula nokuvuselela ngesikhathi sokuphulula. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukujwayelana nomzimba womlingani.

Ukuphulula ngokuvamile kuqala ngokuthinta, futhi akudingekile ukuba kube ukushukunyiswa ubunqunu, ukuphulula kungase kube ukuthinta okuyisibonelo.

Ngezinye izikhathi ukuthinta nje kwanele ukukucasula. ukuvuka kozakwethu. Ukuthinta okunjalo okungajwayelekile kungaba yi-foreplay ephelele. Kunezindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuphulula, kodwa kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuphulula akufanele kuqale ngokuphulula izindawo ezinomsoco kakhulu emzimbeni ukuze kwandiswe injabulo.

Ungaqala ngamazwi othando, ukuthinta izandla. Ungagxila ekhanda, emehlweni, ezindlebeni nasentanyeni. Kokubili ingemuva lekhanda nentamo kuphakathi kwezindawo ezizwela kakhulu emzimbeni. Izindebe zizodlala indima ebalulekile. Izazi zezocansi zithi indlela enhle yokuphulula ukuze uzuze ukwaneliseka okuphelele kocansi futhi ukwelule iwukuba kuqala udlule izitho zangasese. Ayikho into evusa inkanuko njengokwazi ukuthi singalalela futhi siqaphele izidingo zocansi zomlingani wethu.

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I-athikili ibuyekezwe uchwepheshe:

UStanislav Dulko, MD, PhD

Isazi socansi. Ilungu lebhodi le-Polish Society of Sexologists.