unxantathu wocansi

Amadoda amaningi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ashadile noma ashadile, aphupha enza ucansi nabesifazane ababili. Kwesinye isikhathi bacabanga ukuya ocansini nophathina babo kanye noyedwa noma abesifazane abaningi.

1. Izithembu

Kunenkolelo yokuthi amadoda anesithembu ngokwemvelo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bavame ukucabanga ngocansi ngakho-ke bafuna ukwenza uthando kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka kanye nabesifazane abaningi. Nokho, ukucabanga kwabo akuvamile ukugcwaliseka ngokugcwele, njengoba iningi labesifazane abakhangayo lisuke lingafinyeleleki kubo. Ngokuvamile basuke sebesohlotsheni oluthile lobuhlobo noma abalingani babo bamanje babaphazamisa ngokuphumelelayo ekusetshenzisweni kwakho konke. izifiso zobulili.

Ngokuvamile amadoda acabanga ubulili nomsebenzi asebenza naye, owayengumlingani, umakhelwane, umlingisi odumile, inkanyezi yezocansi, uthisha, umfokazi ovela ebhasini. Bahlanganiswe yinkanuko, ukunganeliseki ngokocansi, ukuhlanekezela, ukuxega kanye nesipiliyoni socansi.

2. Kungani amadoda ephupha ngonxantathu?

Ngokuvamile, amaphupho ngocansi nabesifazane ababili noma ngaphezulu avela esidingweni sokuthuthukisa ukuzethemba, ukuqinisekisa ubudoda bomuntu, nokwandisa ukuzethemba komuntu ngokobulili. Esinye isizathu isifiso. hlukanisa impilo yakho evusa inkanuko noma ukwanda kwemizwa yocansi lapho isimiso sesingenile ocansini nomlingani wakho ovamile. Kuyenzeka futhi ukuthi amaphupho mayelana nonxantathu avele njengomphumela wokwesaba okuyisisekelo: "Ingabe nginesiqiniseko sokuthi ngingakwazi ukwanelisa ngokugcwele umlingani wami?" Ngakho lapho lokhu kwenziwa ngempumelelo nabesifazane ababili, ukuzethemba kowesilisa kuyenyuka.

Kuvele ukuthi amaphupho ngocansi nabantu besifazane abangaphezu koyedwa kwesinye isikhathi akhombisa izidingo zocansi ezicindezelwe, umbukiso, i-narcissistic, ubutabane kanye nokuthambekela kwe-sadomasochistic. Kodwa-ke, ukuchaza kwabo okungaqondakali akuwona umsebenzi olula futhi kudinga ukuhlaziywa okuphelele kwempilo yomuntu yezocansi kanye nokuqonda okuphelele kobuntu bakhe.

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Anna Belous

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, i-psychotherapist, umqeqeshi womuntu siqu.